Readers’ Comments
“We have been working through the eBook (100 Ways to Keep Your Lover).
It’s surprising how much we forget. We have been making love for thirty years this year and
have relearned so much from the eBook, positions, technique, etc. Last week we went to a
hotel with the intention of exhausting ourselves doing nothing but loving, fucking and
sucking and we succeeded—needed a day off work to recover.” RJ – Australi
This took me an afternoon to read and absorb what I needed to know to keep my man. He’s been a divorcee for 23 years and declares he can’t get along w/o ejaculating in a woman once a month, or so. In the meantime he masturbates. He’s really enjoying sex now with me, mother of 4 grown children. This book will open up our lives, our love and our health as well as to find ‘true love’. I’ve never really been in love before, and he’s been hurt severely more than once… I’m so new to sex: to accepting it’s healthy, and wonderful. Thank you for producing this once in a lifetime means to ‘living, and loving’. Millie (married 47 yrs., losing out to lung cancer 4 yrs. ago).
“When you get this book, you receive 111 erotic photos and illustrations that show you
some ways to make your partner and you closer and happy. But in addition to that,
you have very nice descriptions and articles on how to enjoy beautiful moments
with the person you love.” German – Amazon.com
“Lack of fulfillment in a relationship is felt in all ways, but perhaps in sexuality first and foremost. Many people come to Tantra looking for ways to spice up a love life that has lost flavour or even gone sour. For those partnerships which only need the chance to ‘consider the possibilities’, 100 Ways to Keep Your Lover is a pretty comprehensive illustrated catalogue, covering topics from massage to meals to masochism. While what pleases or turns off is bound to differ from couple to couple, there is enough here to suggest, visually and in writing, multiple answers to the question, ‘What turns you on?’
I am grateful for a good many of the 100 ideas and suggestions. Having them in a list helps me to remember I want to propose them to my lover. On the other hand, I know she would feel pressured and turned off if I gave her the document itself: the explicit photos, some of the suggestions and the sheer volume of them would trigger uncomfortable feelings. Instead I can keep in mind a few I know we would both feel OK with, and suggest them when the time is right (as if they were my own!). I especially like number 41, with its great pictures. “Catch a rainbow. Watch the sun … go down. Sleep out under the stars.” Another idea in particular touched a chord for me, and I mean to share it with my lover if the opportunity arises:
53. Tantric lovers: many women believe men are happier the more frequently they can have intercourse. … What men truly enjoy is being aroused by their partner and remaining in the aroused state for a long period of time
The ebook format allows the added touch of hot links (some of them pretty hot, all right), so no need to go to Google or the Yellow Pages to find suppliers of pheromones or fancy lingerie–just click. Bravo for taking that on. Many of the sex aids are available from your own 4 Freedoms site, so keeping those links working is actually under your control. I appreciate that you have taken on the challenge of Web link mortality by offering a year of updates with the purchase price.
Chances are that to improve sex, a relationship needs to evolve on more levels than just the sexual. It is even likely that what a couple’s sex life really needs is deeper communication, opening up on taboo subjects, and actual personal growth. The possibility can be scary and many of us try to avoid it as long as we can. Yet open-heart “surgery”–individual or relationship therapy–may even be the best choice. 100 Ways leaves a door open to personal growth, if you can see the need to go through it. Some of the items leading to this door include
34. Quiet your thinking … pay attention to sensory information
57. Let go of control. Cry… Lovemaking is best when there is no goal
58. Laugh
81. Prolong the orgasmic energy
85. Talk where one only listens
and finally, the excellent appendix on Heart Talk. For me this is the essence of Tantra. Open-hearted, goal-less communication can lead lovers to discover and share who they really are. I believe this is the way to joy and even ecstasy. As long as it is present in a work claiming to be comprehensive, I think you can indeed say there is something in it for everyone.
Toby Earp
