28 Days to Ecstasy for Couples:
Tantra Step By Step

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Tantric Sex

We’ve discovered during our 10 years of teaching that, while many couples are keenly interested in the Tantric path, they rarely have enough time to delve as deeply into the practice as they'd like to. As well, in this complex and fast-paced world, they want straightforward, easy to comprehend advice on how to learn new skills and make life changes.

 

So, we’ve designed this playbook for busy couples like you, who are intrigued by the idea of Tantra but don’t have a lot of time. It's an action book, not a book of theory or analysis. Its essence is a detailed 28-day plan with step-by-step instructions for simple, fun-to-do Tantric activities that will strengthen relationships and intensify sexual/spiritual connection.

 

The exercises are quite short—from one to thirty minutes. On average you'll spend no more than 20 minutes per day on sacred loving practice—less time than you spend watching TV or reading the paper. Once per week there are longer lovemaking periods in which you explore the delights of sacred loving fueled by the exercises you've learned.

 

Also included are sections on exactly what to do in an extended lovemkaing session and a guideline for carrying forward your practice through a lifetime together. The 28-day plan will give you a solid grounding in Tantric practice that can profoundly affect the happiness of your relationship. All the exercises have been tested by our hundreds of clients, and they're what we ourselves do to keep our own relationship thriving and vibrant.

In the February 10, 2008 episode of her popular Oxygen TV show Talk Sex, world famous sex educator Sue Johanson had this to say about 28 Days . . .

 

It's been a while since we had a book on Tantric Sex, and this is a great one. 28 DAYS TO ECSTASY FOR COUPLES by Copeland and Link is a fantastic 28-day program for those who want to learn. Tantric sex is spiritual as well as physical and you can't expect to do it right the day after tomorrow. Recommended reading even if you have no intention of practicing tantric sex. No more “slam bam thank you ma'am.”

 

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Table of Contents

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Excerpts

Chapter One: Tantra For You

The techniques you will learn include conscious intention and attention, sexual physical fitness, intimate emotional connection, energy circulation and exchange between lovers, as well as sexual, ceremonial, and ritual play. Included with each day’s activities is an inspiring message—a thought for the day—related to relationship, sexuality, and spirituality. They help you focus on key elements of your relationship, such as profound intimacy, soaring passion, trust, surrender, and the most expansive love imaginable.

 

This book emphasizes action rather than ideas. It’s a companion playbook to our book Soul Sex: Tantra For Two, which is much more detailed in its treatment of Tantric concepts and their role in relationships. This book is short and directly to the point—to encourage you to actually add the practices of Tantric sacred sexuality into your active lifestyle.

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Chapter Three: The 28 Day Ecstasy Plan

Week 1
In this first week of practice you’ll learn the basic components of Tantric lovemaking skills: relaxation, focus, conscious breath, PC Pumping, loving connection.

 

Day 1

 

Grounding
Over the next 28 days you’ll be learning to work with your sexual energy. In order to do that, it’s very helpful to be in a relaxed state, feeling comfortable, safe, and focused. Grounding is a simple and quick way to become calm, centered, and present. Your intention while Grounding is to release tension, blockages, and negative energies from your system. You replace them with Mother Earth energy—strong, serene, and full of sensual vitality.

 

Time: 5 minutes

  1. Sit comfortably, your feet flat on the floor, your back straight but not rigid, your hands in your lap, or on your thighs.
  2. Close your eyes.
  3. Take a big breath in and let it out. Repeat.
  4. Relax your shoulders and belly.
  5. Focus your attention on your lower belly and your genitals.
  6. When your concentration on these parts of your body is strong, begin to imagine a connection extending from your body, from your genitals, down into the earth.
  7. This can be any image that naturally occurs to you, or that you consciously choose. For example, it could be a tree trunk, a waterfall, an extension of your flesh, a hollow tube.
  8. Picture that image stretching down from your body, through the chair you’re sitting on, through the floor beneath you, down through the ground below the building you’re in, down through the rock, the bedrock, and the earth’s crust, all the way to the molten core at the center of the earth. Some people may feel or hear their connection to the earth’s core, rather than see it—whatever your experience is, it’s the right one.
  9. When you have your connection clearly formed, allow any overwhelming sensations, any negative energies, to leave your body through your lower belly and genitals, through your connecting bridge, down to the earth’s core.
  10. Consciously release any anxiety, mental distraction, physical discomfort, fear, tiredness, doubt, judgment, over-excitement. Whatever you do not want in your system, allow it to flow down through your body, through your connection, like sand in an hourglass, or water down a drain.
  11. When those unwanted sensations reach the earth’s core, they are transformed in that fiery blast. They return to you as Mother Earth energy. It rises up through your connection, bringing calm, strength, and sensual vitality.
  12. Continue directing negative energies to flow down and away, and allow liveliness, serenity, and power to rise up into you.
  13. To help you return to this grounded state more easily next time, use the process called anchoring. Touch a spot on your body that’s easy to reach and easy to remember. “Anchor” this grounded state to that spot.
  14. Open your eyes and prepare for your Commitment Ceremony.

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Chapter Six: Continuing Your Practice

Renewing Vows of Commitment

If you’re in a committed long-term relationship, renew your vows every year. Do it privately or invite witnesses. In your ceremony, communicate all the ways you want, need, and love your partner. Add in any promises that you intend to honor, for example about fidelity or time together. Many of us have experienced the breaking of vows, so it’s unrealistic to assume that vows once spoken will last for life. By renewing them yearly you confirm that your commitment remains strong. It also gives you the opportunity to update your vows so they accurately and honestly convey how you feel about each other now. Consummate your vows with the most passionate lovemaking.

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Readers' Comments

Here are just a few of the comments we’ve received from couples who’ve tried the 28 Day Plan. These couples run the full range of experience in sacred sex, from complete novices to Tantric sex instructors. The 28 day practice deeply affected each and every one of them, just as it will touch your lives.

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BadWitch, April 2008

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I used to think tantra was an exercise in frustration.

 

It was not something I knew a great deal about, but a friend who did know about it explained it to me as a means of channelling sexual energy, usually through exercises to delay the moment of release, with the aim of experiencing the divine powers of creativity. It was a serious magical tradition, they said solemnly, not merely something to spice up your sex life.

 

Then, earlier this year, I read a preview of the book 28 Days to Ecstasy for Couples: Tantra Step by Step, which made it sound more fun and less hard work.

 

Would you like to experience erotic sex like never before? Connect with your partner to reach spiritual ecstasy ... with daily practice averaging just 20 minutes a day," said the blurb. An easy and enjoyable way to do magic - just a bad witch's kind of thing.

 

The subject of sacred sex, such as tantra, probably earns more smirks than any other spiritual topic.

 

Yet we live in a society where sex is more important than religion to most people, so why do we laugh? Why aren't more of us trying to find the divine heights that tantric teaching tells us our lovemaking can reach?

 

I guess there are a few answers to that. One of them has to be that much of tantra is about ways to avoid having an orgasm. We all know orgasms are great, so why on earth would we want to avoid them?

 

Another important factor is that we lead very busy lives. Tantra is often perceived as being something that is difficult and time-consuming to learn, requiring years of regular practice to be proficient at.

 

A book I was sent last month, 28 Days to Ecstasy for Couples: Tantra Step by Step by Pala Copeland and Al Link, does a pretty good job of dealing with both of those problems.

 

It contains exercises for couples that take about 20 minutes each and are designed to be done one per day over a month to teach the basics of tantra.

 

None of the exercises are particularly difficult. They start with things such as simple visualisations, breathing exercises, loving eye contact with your partner and tensing and relaxing muscles. In fact, I think anyone trying them would be surprised at how easy they actually are - and enjoyable. After all, sex is meant to be enjoyable and tantra is all about experiencing the divine through joy.

 

At the end of each week there is a tantric lovemaking session that involves a little ceremony and ritual such as bathing together, creating a sacred space with lighted candles and incense and confirming your commitment to each other. There are also erotic exercises designed to increase sensual pleasure and help you learn to move sexual energy throughout your entire body.

 

Yes, but what about the "not having an orgasm" thing? I hear people ask. Actually, the book describes it more as "non-goal-orientated lovemaking". It explains techniques for prolonging sex in order to intensify the sensation and it certainly doesn't forbid anyone from having an orgasm.

 

What the book does not do is go into depth about theory. It is primarily a workbook of practical exercises, while the history of tantra and the thoughts behind it are covered in Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, an earlier book by Al Link [and Pala Copeland].

 

If you and your partner are looking for an easy, practical step-by-step guide on tantra, 28 Days to Ecstasy for Couples is a good book to begin with. It also has plenty of ideas for things to do after the first month, as the second half of the book contains plenty of suggestions for ways to continue practising sacred sex.

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