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Sacred Sexuality in Conscious Relationship

Volume 12 - Number 1, March 2010
Sacred Loving - Spiritual Sex:
Learning For Lovers - Lovers For Life

Al Link and Pala Copeland

Table of Contents

• Tantra and Kama Sutra DVD Home Study Courses
• Workshops
  • Couples' Weekends
  • Goddess for Women
  • Part 2 - Goddess
• Springtime Sexy Spiritual Relationships Membership Sale
• Our Newest eBook Kama Sutra Super Sex
• Humor
• Quotes
• Cool Websites
• Sacred Sex News
• Tantra Sacred Loving Exercise Flexible Thinking
• Featured Kama Sutra Position "Kokila"
• Workshop Sponsors
• All the Way to Enlightenment for Two™
• Tell a Friend About Our Newsletter

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• Learn how to keep your relationship passionate regardless of how long you have been together.
• Learn how both men and women can have multiple orgasms.
• Balance the yin/yang, sperm/egg of men and women’s sexuality. No more sexual frustration. Know what your lover wants and needs and learn how to provide it.
• Men, overcome premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. Get and keep strong erections using simple daily exercises that take only a few minutes.
• Learn lovemaking techniques that will add so much variety you'll never want to look elsewhere for sexual excitement.
• Recover those lusty feelings of wanting to rip each other’s clothes off!

Workshop Highlights

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Workshop Dates:May 14-16, June 4-6 July 16-18 & 23-25, August 13-15 & 27-29, September 24-26

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Awakening Your Goddess: Women's Weekend

Friday, October 1 - Sunday, October 3 ~ at Ecology Retreat Centre , near Toronto

At this weekend retreat for women only you'll have a safe environment in which to learn how to break through your barriers and reclaim your sensual spiritual goddess. Celebrate the awakening of your divine self in this relaxed, informal group. Register by June 30 and save.

Awaken Your Goddess Part II: Divine Woman

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Bring your Goddess out to stay with this Divine Woman weekend. Go deeper into your feminine power—your magic combination of sexuality and spirit. Discover your inner strengths and learn how to carry them with you into all parts of your everyday life. Join Pala and Gaia for this very special journey of self-discovery and transformation.

This weekend is designed for women who have participated in Awakening Your Goddess, or Al and Pala's Couples’ Introduction to Tantra, or who have taken other women focused workshops about sexuality, spirituality, and conscious living. Register by April 15 and save.

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Kama Sutra Super Sex eBook

Our second Kama Sutra eBook was Kama Sutra Sex Positions with Liberator Shapes. This illustrates the use of Liberator Shapes to engage in the sexual intercourse positions from the Kama Sutra and other sources.

Kama Sutra Super Sex completes the trilogy of Kama Sutra eBooks. This latest electronic release is based on our book, The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, published by Penguin. That book remains a best seller on Amazon.com.

Kama Sutra Super Sex is a photo illustrated presentation of all the love techniques presented in the classic text, including methods of foreplay, sexual intercourse, and afterplay. Hot!

Humor

A major research institution in Mumbai, India, has recently announced the discovery of the heaviest chemical element not yet known to science.

The new element has been named "Governmentium".

Governmentium has 1 neutron, 12 assistant neutrons, 75 deputy neutrons, and 11 assistant deputy neutrons, giving it an atomic mass of 312.

These 312 particles are held together by forces called morons, which are surrounded by vast quantities of lepton-like particles called peons.

Since Governmentium has no electrons, it is inert. However, it can be detected as it impedes every reaction with which it comes into contact.

A minute amount of Governmentium causes one reaction to take over 4 days to complete when it would normally take less than a second.

Governmentium has a normal half-life of 2 to 4 years; it does not decay, but instead undergoes a reorganization in which a portion of the assistant neutrons and deputy neutrons exchange places.

In fact, Governmentium mass will actually increase over time, since each reorganization causes some morons to become neutrons, forming isodopes.

This characteristic of moron-promotion leads some scientists to speculate that Governmentium is formed whenever morons reach a certain quantity in concentration.

This hypothetical quantity is referred to as Critical Morass. You will know it when you see it.

Source: http://ranjithmenon.blogspot.com/ February 26, 2009

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Only in America

Only in America do drugstores make the sick walk all the way to the back of the store to get their prescriptions while healthy people can buy cigarettes at the front.

Only in America do we leave cars worth thousands of dollars in the driveway and put our useless junk in the garage.

Only in America do we buy hot dogs in packages of ten and buns in packages of eight.

Only in America do we use the word “politics” to describe the process so well: “Poli” in Latin meaning “many” and “tics” meaning “bloodsucking creatures.”

Only in America do they have drive-up ATM machines with Braille lettering.

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Ever Wonder?

Why the sun lightens our hair, but darkens our skin?

Why don't you ever see the headline “Psychic Wins Lottery?”

Why is it that doctors call what they do “practice?”

Why is lemon juice made with artificial flavor, and dishwashing liquid made with real lemons?

Why is the man who invests all your money called a broker?

Why is the time of day with the slowest traffic called rush hour?

Why isn't there mouse-flavored cat food?

Why didn't Noah swat those two mosquitoes?

Why do they sterilize the needle for lethal injections?

You know that indestructible black box that is used on airplanes? Why don't they make the whole plane out of that stuff?!

Why are they called apartments when they are all stuck together?

If con is the opposite of pro, is Congress the opposite of progress?

If flying is so safe, why do they call the airport the terminal?

Quotes

"Reality is nothing more than a lot of agreement."
Fred Alan Wolf, Quantum Theorist

"It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.”
Ursula K. Le Guin

"Christ has no body now on earth but yours,
No hands but yours, no feet but yours,
Yours are the eyes through which is to look out
Christ's compassion to the world;
Yours are the feet with which he is to go about doing good;
Yours are the hands with which he is to bless men now.”
St. Teresa of Avila

"Follow the path of the unsafe, independent thinker. Expose your ideas to the dangers of controversy. Speak your mind and fear less the label of ‘crackpot’ than the stigma of conformity. And on issues that seem important to you, stand up and be counted at any cost."
Thomas J. Watson

Cool Websites

True Companion

Introducing the world’s first sex robot dolls, one for her and one for him. The female version was unveiled at the AVN Adult Entertainment Expo in Las Vegas. January 9, 2010. According to www.truecompanion.com “She is also anatomically consistent with a human, so you can have a talk or have sex. She is ‘Always Turned On and Ready to Talk or Play’! Have a Conversation or Sex – It is Up to You!” Approximately $6,500 US!

Click here to watch a YouTube video from the Adult Expo about the Robot Doll.

1000 Ways to Improve Your Memory

Featured Kama Sutra Position

Kokila

You may know “Kokila” (Congress of the Crow) as the 69 position. It's easiest to do with one partner flat on his/her back and the other kneeling over top (as in our photo), or with both lovers lying on their sides.

Oral loving is a classic way for lovers to serve up a double measure of pleasure. Really, aren’t you a better person when you regularly experience pleasure? Aren’t you nicer to be around and easier to get along with? Don’t you like yourself better when you are regularly experiencing pleasure?

Flexible Thinking

You have the power over what you think about. You also have the power over how you think about what you think about.

Your brain performs various functions, such as recalling, thinking, and imagining, in particular ways. Each of your five senses includes a number of subcategories of information—submodalities. When you experience or remember something joyful, painful, or frightening, you do so in a unique way, using particular senses and their submodalities. By consciously changing the submodalities you use to remember experiences, you actually change your memories and assign them different meanings.

Time: 30 minutes to 1 hour

Properties:

pen and paper

Steps:

1. Recall an extraordinary experience in which you felt joyous, happy, and full of wonder. This can be any experience, anywhere, anytime.

   • Identify your key submodalities for this type of experience. For example, if you are primarily visual, is the picture up close or far away? What color is the background? Is the picture bright or dim? Is the picture black and white or in color? Is the picture moving or still? Where in your consciousness is the picture located, for example, front and center, front lower right, behind your head, high up or low? Is the picture associated (as if you were right in the scene re-experiencing it) or disassociated (as if you were watching a movie)?
   • If you are primarily auditory, is the sound loud or soft? Is it slow or fast? Is it continuous or interrupted? Which direction is the sound coming from? Is the sound stereo or monaural? Is it close or far away? Is it rhythmical or discordant? Do you hear music and/or talking? Is the experience associated or disassociated? Is the sound inside or outside you?
   • If you are primarily kinesthetic, do you notice weight, pressure, temperature, and/or movement? Does your skin feel tactile sensations? Do your muscles and internal organs feel sensations? Where are these located? Do they fade in and out, or are they continuous? How long do they last? Where do they start and end if they move around?

2. Recall any ordinary sexual experience. Don’t pick one that was extraordinary (either great or awful). Identify your key submodalities for this experience as you did above—visual, auditory, and kinesthetic details.
3. In your imagination, deliberately change on sub-modality (visual, auditory, kinesthetic) at a time so that your inner experience for the ordinary sexual encounter is perceived in the same way as the joyous experience. For example, if the ordinary experience is primarily visual with the picture fuzzy, far away, off to one side, fading in and out, black and white, but the joyous experience is clear, close up, centered in your field of vision, and in color, deliberately change how you see the ordinary experience. Make it clear, close up, centered, colorful and so on. Notice how this changes your remembrance of the sexual experience and your feelings about it.

Comments:

Comments: You can use this process to change your perceptions of not just sexual experiences but of any situation. Not just after the fact, but during!

How can I enlarge my penis?

Concern over penis size is understandable but unfortunate. Even an erect three inch penis is sufficient for satisfying intercourse for a partner, if you are knowledgeable and skilled in the art of love. There are very few penises smaller than that. Our first recommendation is for you to read books and take workshops on how to be a master lover. Start with ours .

• Books by Al Link and Pala Copeland
• eBooks by Al Link and Pala Copeland
• Workshops by Al Link and Pala Copeland

The useful and proper questions are: 1. How can I improve my lovemaking knowledge and skill? 2. How can I find a match with someone so that my penis fits perfectly with her vagina? You don't need to fix yourself, just find the right partner. When you fit together, size is not an issue at all.

Nevertheless, there are methods to increase penis length and thickness and we will point you in the direction of a book, a video and a penis pump for doing that. We definitely do not recommend any oral supplements for enlarging the penis. They do not work and they appeal only to the lazy man unwilling to do the long term exercises to get real results.

But first, maybe your lingam (Sanskrit for penis) is not really all that small. Many men believe their penis is too small when in fact it is well within the average size range of 4½ to 6 inches. Your penis always looks smaller to you than it does to others, especially if you look at it by simply glancing down with your eyes. Instead try looking at it in a mirror to get a more realistic impression. Better yet here is how you can measure your penis accurately.  

How to measure your penis…WITHOUT CHEATING! By Michael Alvear
Click HERE to watch the video.

The best book that we have seen for learning how to increase the size of your penis is Exercising the Penis: How to Make Your Most Prized Organ Bigger, Harder and Healthier by Aaron Kemmer. He includes lots of exercises to do.
by Aaron Kemmer (Author), Michelle Stonecipher (Editor), Venessa Longobardi (Editor)

Recommended Video

The best video we have seen to help you learn how to increase the size and virility of your lingam is TANTRIC YOGA & SEXUAL KUNG FU FOR MEN by sexual kung fu master Loren Johnson.

 If you are serious about enlarging your penis, get both the book and the video and actually do the exercises! You won’t get bigger just by reading about it!

Selection of Superior Quality Penis Pumps  

Rolls Royce of Penis Pumps

According to Asra: “For Tantric scholars and historians, the iconography celebrates the highest possibility of sexual union, captured in the mating ritual in Avatar. In the original script, Cameron is even steamier in his depiction of sex on Pandora on pages 90 and 91:

NEYTIRI: Kissing is very good. But we have something better. She pulls him down until they are kneeling, facing each other on the faintly glowing moss. Neytiri takes the end of her queue and raises it. Jake does the same, with trembling anticipation. The tendrils at the ends move with a life of their own, straining to be joined.

MACRO SHOT – The tendrils INTERWINE with gentle undulations.

JAKE rocks with the direct contact between his nervous system and hers, and ripples of light spread out around them. The ultimate intimacy."

Enlightenment for Two: Finding the Holy Grail
by Al Link

10 Steps to Enlightenment

Generally speaking, statements made in the enlightened state can be made with relative certainty, while statements made afterwards from memory will carry significant authority but not certainty. When statements are made as to method and techniques for helping others attain enlightenment, even a guru speaks speculatively, whether in the enlightened state or not. Therefore, no one, including all enlightened gurus, can say with certainty how anyone else can gain entry to the circle of enlightened beings. All enlightened human beings say exactly the same thing; they each just speak a different language.

Below are ten steps to follow to get from where you are to where you want to be. When you get there you will not have moved an inch. Only one thing exists: consciousness. Only one problem exists: the illusion of separation. The one solution: enlightenment. Now we know what to do; take 10 steps to enlightenment:

1. You become aware of a longing for something more. You ask yourself, “Is this all there is?” You conclude, “Surely there must be something more than this.” You have actually taken the first step.
2. You become aware of enlightenment as a concept. It is just another idea among all the other interesting ideas you have in your head.
3. You turn a corner and start to believe that enlightenment is something real. You are curious. You start to think about enlightenment. You start to talk with others about it. You start to read books about enlightenment.
4. You start to want enlightenment for yourself. The desire begins to get strong within, but mostly on the cognitive level. Even though this is already the fourth step, in a way it is the real beginning; the beginning of the real.
5. You begin your spiritual quest with the active search for enlightenment, but you don’t know where to look. You don’t know what it is, and you don’t know where to find it. This step is very exciting and also scary. Your heart joins the search; you become aware of a deep longing in your heart to return home. You explore various spiritual practices.

6. Your search is primarily directed into the world, outside of yourself. You may begin to make changes in your life (such as how you live, where you live, who you live with, and concerning your work), but nothing you change in the world touches your deep longing for something more. You become confused, frustrated, and overwhelmed; you want to quit and go back to your ordinary life that is more familiar and comfortable.
7. Finally, usually after years of study and searching, you understand that the lower cannot command the higher. You realize that you have been looking in the wrong place, outside of yourself, and that you cannot make enlightenment happen, that no spiritual practice can make it happen. You turn your gaze inward. You understand that what you are looking for is that which is looking. Your mind begins to observe itself. You surrender to your true Self; you let go of the search, but you still have desire, a profound, burning desire to wake up. You continue your spiritual practice, but it is now different. You have selected one spiritual path from the great smorgasbord of possibilities. However, instead of a search, it becomes more like a prayer of thanks, an offering up to God in recognition of your longing to honor him, to remember who you really are.
8. One day, you simply wake up. The veil of the illusion of separation lifts. You realize that you are God; you are the one without a second. You see that there is only one thing, and you are it, all of it. Your first awakening only lasts for a short time, perhaps only a few minutes, several hours or as long as many days or weeks, but then it recedes and the more ordinary ego-centered consciousness returns. You experience a profound anguish at the loss of this perfect light, love, truth, and knowing. In spite of anguish, you have already conquered death; you know that what you really are cannot die, only the physical body dies.
9. Reawakening: enlightenment returns. Your life has now changed. You are living not in the past or the future but in the moment. You continue along your spiritual path. Your longing is very strong. You remain surrendered in a cocoon of faith with an inward knowing that you will return to that enlightened state, even if it is only at the moment of your physical death. You continue your inner work of transcending the ego, healing old wounds, and burning accumulated karma. Now you are spiritually confident, neither arrogant nor egotistical nor afraid of anything. You just know unshakably who you really are, what everything is and is not, what it all means, and what you are to do.
10. Enlightenment becomes stable. You are in the enlightened state more or less continuously. Your responsibility now is to help others awaken. School is out. Welcome home!

Who Should Read This Book?

You turn a corner and start to believe that enlightenment is something real. You are curious. You start to think about enlightenment. You start to talk with others about it. You start to read books about enlightenment.

This book is not intended for those who are completely skeptical or indifferent to enlightenment and for those who are simply unconcerned with spiritual questions. However, if you are a spiritual seeker, you will find great value here. If you are a spiritual finder, i.e., you have already had your personal taste of enlightenment, then you will want to read this book and compare notes with the author.

Anyone who seriously grapples with the existence of pain, suffering and evil, will almost certainly want to read this book. Pain and suffering are not caused by the existence of evil in the world, but rather by the illusion of separation. This is a major clue about where the solution to these problems is to be found. That solution is not only necessary and sufficient, it is also simple and elegant—a perfect solution.

My first purpose in writing this book is to awaken within each reader a burning desire to undertake their own spiritual quest, or if you are already on some chosen spiritual path, to encourage you to persevere, never giving up the vision that you also can be enlightened, even in this lifetime.

My second purpose in writing this book is to offer a trail of crumbs, like in the storybook Hansel and Gretel, which marks a path home, to enlightenment. When lost in the wilderness, it can be very uplifting to stumble across some path, however faint; someone has been here before, someone has gone this way. Anyone on a spiritual path is no longer completely lost, no longer completely asleep, no longer without hope. Once you choose some spiritual practice, each step of the journey will naturally lead to the next, until you eventually arrive where you want to be; but you must take the first step, you must begin somewhere. This book presents a path in the wilderness. This book is an excellent place to begin, or continue, your journey home to the high Self.

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Warm Love to all of you and thank you for your continued support.
Al and Pala