4 Freedoms Newsletter ©
Sacred Sex in Spiritual Relationship

Volume 13 Number 1 – May 2011
Sacred Loving - Spiritual Sex:
Learning For Lovers - Lovers For Life

Al Link and Pala Copeland

Table of Contents

• Tantra and Kama Sutra DVD Home Study Courses – Plus New DVDs
• Tantra Sacred Loving Exercise "You Go First"
• Workshops
• Humor
• Quotes
• Cool Websites
• Featured Kama Sutra Position "Mare's Trick"
• Sexy Spiritual Relationships Membership Site
• Workshop Sponsors
• All the Way to Enlightenment for Two™: Chapter Excerpts
• Pala and Al are moving to the USA!
• Tell a Friend About Our Newsletter

DVD Home Study Courses

Tantra Video Home Study Course – Find Out More

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Kama Sutra Video Home Study Course – Find Out More

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The next best thing to being there!

These are not just bundled interviews or clips of various lovemaking techniques like some other videos that claim to be home study courses. The complete learning curriculum in these courses includes, for each module, a list of Learning outcomes, Review Questions and Questions for Reflection. Start at the beginning and move through to mastery, step by step. Read the instructions in the electronic manual then watch the demonstrations in the videos. Fun, easy to learn, progress at your own pace…

• Learn how to keep your relationship passionate regardless of how long you have been together.
• Learn how both men and women can have multiple orgasms.
• Balance the yin/yang, sperm/egg of men and women’s sexuality. No more sexual frustration.
• Know what your lover wants and needs and learn how to provide it.
• Men, overcome premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. Get and keep strong erections using simple daily exercises that take only a few minutes.
• Learn lovemaking techniques that will add so much variety you'll never want to look elsewhere for sexual excitement.
• Recover those lusty feelings of wanting to rip each other’s clothes off!

In conjunction with the Sexual Awakening Centre, we have also released two more DVDs.

Female Ejaculation

Women and Sex Toys

Coming Soon: Two more DVDs from 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra and The Sexual Awakening Centre Part of our “Awakening Your Goddess” Series

You Go First

The poet Alta once wrote, “Let’s stop hurting each other. You go first.”
Somebody has to go first if things are going to change for the better.

Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour

Properties Required:
plastic dishwashing pan, two towels, bar of fine soap, sloughing cream, pedicure items, e.g., pumice stone, toenail clippers, nail file, nail buff, nail sticks, nail polish, foot creams, and lotions

Steps:

1. Identify a contentious issue that repeatedly leads to unfriendly disagreements, disrespectful arguments, or violent fights. Work with only one issue at a time.
2. As objectively as you can, try to come to agreement on what the nature of the issue is, for example, what happens first (how things get started), then what happens next, such as “I do this, then you do that, then this happens….” Try to do this without blaming, or judging, or attacking each other about what usually happens. Try to avoid insisting one or the other is at fault and must change or else. In this step, you are objectively describing the process not getting caught up in the specifics of your issue.
3. Draw straws to see who will go first. The partner with the short straw leads, offering a change in attitude and, most importantly, a specific behavior change to kick-start the resolution process. Important: When you go first, you cannot require any reciprocal change from your partner. You are offering a change as a way to initiate a peace process.

Comments: This exercise is designed to get the ball rolling; it is not an attempt to completely resolve the issue immediately. We are assuming there is goodwill between you, that you really do love one another and want the relationship to work. Just getting things moving in a new direction with a new dynamic is often all that is needed to clear the way for a completely satisfactory solution to emerge naturally. The next time you use the process, the other person goes first, or you can draw straws to see who goes first each time.

Workshops

Our Love Nest – Allumettes Island, QC Canada (near Pembroke, Ontario)

Couples’ Introduction to Tantra

Weekend 1 of 3 extraordinary Tantra and Sacred Relationship weekends for couples.

Workshop Dates Summer 2011:

• June 10-12, 17-19 & 24-26
• July 15-17
• August 12-14 & 19-21
• September 9-11, 16-18, 23-25

Couples Intermediate Tantra (Weekend 2 of 3) – July 22-24, 2011

Visit our workshop registration page to confirm availability and to register for a weekend that you’ll remember for the rest of your lives.

Get details of all our workshops

Humor

A little boy goes to his father and asks “Daddy, how was I born?”

The father answers, “Well, son, I guess one day you will need to find out. Anyway, your Mom and I first got together in a chat room on Yahoo. Then I set up a date via e-mail with your Mom and we met at a cyber-cafe. We sneaked into a secluded room, where your mother agreed to a download from my hard drive. As soon as I was ready to upload, we discovered that neither one of us had used a firewall, and since it was too late to hit the delete button, nine months later a little Pop-Up appeared that said…”

Click here to see what the Pop-Up said.

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Morning After

A young couple was married, and celebrated their first night together, doing what newlyweds do, time and time again, all night long—very Tantric. Morning comes and the groom goes into the bathroom but finds no towel when he emerges from the shower. He asks the bride to please bring one from the bedroom. When she gets to the bathroom door, she sees his naked body in full light for the first time. Her eyes went up and down and at about midway, they stopped and stared, and she asked shyly, “What’s that?” pointing to a small part of his anatomy. He, also being shy, thought for a minute and then said, “Well, that’s what we had so much fun with last night.” And she, in amazement, asked, “Is that all we have left!?”

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Anger Management

Man: “When I get mad at you, you never fight back. How do you control your anger?”

Woman: “I clean the toilet.”

Man: “How does that help?”

Woman: “I use your toothbrush!”

What the Pop-Up Said

Quotes

"It is from numberless diverse acts of courage and belief that human history is shaped. Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring those ripples build a current which can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and injustice"
Senator Robert F. Kennedy

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes

"Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It's the only thing."
Albert Schweitzer

"My life is my message."
Mahatma Gandhi

"Be of good cheer. Do not think of today's failures, but of the success that may come tomorrow. You have set yourselves a difficult task, but you will succeed if you persevere; and you will find a joy in overcoming obstacles."
Helen Keller

Cool Websites

WHITE SWAN WEDNESDAYS

This week's White Swan Wednesday offering is taken from Brenda McMorrow's second release, Love Abounds '. The earthy, acoustic " Cartwheel Galaxy " extends from the personal to the universal, revealing the limitless possibility that resides within each of us.

Featured Kama Sutra Position

Mare’s Trick

A talented love goddess also adds great pleasure to Woman On Top poses when she employs theMare’s Trick. During intercourse she manipulates the muscles inside her yoni, squeezing and relaxing them all around her lover’s lingam. Vatsyayana says it requires lots of practice to do the Mare’s Trick well, but you’ll find it’s worth every minute of training!

Excerpted from our Kama Sutra Super Sex eBook
byAl Link and Pala Copeland

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Enlightenment for Two: Finding the Holy Grail
by Al Link

What is Enlightenment?

   “We’re sitting here,” Stern said, “asking spectacular questions, you and I. About the universe and how it began. About everything that exists. And if we can ask a question, probably, sooner or later, we can answer it. So we assume there’s no limit to knowledge. But maybe your dog makes the same mistake! He doesn’t know what lies beyond the neighborhood, but if he found himself in a strange place he would approach it with the tools of comprehension available to him, and soon he would understand it—dog fashion, by sight and smell and so on. There are no limits to his comprehension, Howard, except the limits he does not and cannot ever experience. So how different are we? We’re mammals within the same broad compass of evolution, after all. Our forebrains are bigger, but the difference amounts to a few ounces. We can ask many, many more questions than your dog. And we can answer them. But if there are real limits on our comprehension, they would be invisible to us as they are to Albert. So: Is there anything in the universe we simply cannot know? Is there a question we can’t ask? And would we ever encounter some hint of it, some intimation of the mystery? Or is it permanently beyond our grasp?” Robert Charles Wilson, Mysterium (Bantam Books, 1994), pp. 39-40

“What is enlightenment?” is a question like that, a question almost but not quite beyond reach of the average person’s cognitive frame of reference and beyond reach of even some of the most brilliant minds. The answer is knowable only by jumping across an intellectual, emotional, and spiritual chasm of such terrifying scope and magnitude that few ever bother to formulate the question. Even if someone else poses the question, the implications of the answer might so threaten their beliefs about what is real and what is illusion that they dare not follow.

We have decided to move to the USA. There are a number of reasons for this, one of which is that Al’s dad is aging and has health concerns. We will be closer to him to offer assistance as needed, without being farther away from Pala’s mom who is also aging with health issues.

There are some important economic considerations. For example, we will be moving to Detroit, Michigan, near where Al grew up. This location will put us within reach of over 45 million people who reside within a driving time to Detroit taking less than six hours. The Detroit International airport would likely be a short cab ride away from where we will be living, making it much easier for those who do need to fly to our location to get there.

Exactly where we will be living in Detroit is not yet finalized. We must sell our lovely home on the Ottawa River in Canada, before we can make the final decision on what to buy in Detroit, but we are at the stage in our lives where we would like to explore big city living, probably in a condo downtown within walking distance of most of the important urban cultural, artistic and sports attractions; without having any property maintenance to bother with, and we will be able to walk out, lock the door and travel for months at a time, with no cares about the security of the property.

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Warm Love to all of you and thank you for your continued support.
Al and Pala

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